Posted by Serenity in what's up | 13 Comments
dear blog readers
I wonder if you’re hanging on with me this week.
My cousin Tiffany said this week after a death in one of her friends’ lives, “My perspective came to a screeching halt.”
That’s just how I feel. After singing in my good friend Marjorie’s funeral, I was finally able to clean my kitchen. I’d been walking in and out of it lately only to throw away take-out wrappers. I couldn’t find time to work on my novel or the mental energy to do anything besides think of all that I would do once I got my groove back.
It’s not that I’ve been in despair. It’s just that I wanted to sit down and shut up for a while. If death doesn’t make you stop and think about life, I’m not sure you’re paying attention.
I was going to move on eventually. I was. But then, last night, another phone call – this time from Dad. Another old friend died yesterday. She had a house that stays in my memory as kind of miniature and magical. When we moved away from her, she used to write me letters and include the adventures of her cats, Minnie and Mitas, and other delightful things.
I’m very sad. There’s been a lot of dying lately, and I just thought I’d go ahead and bring the blog to a screeching halt since that’s the way I feel.
I’ll be back next week. All full of perspective again. In the meantime, I’m thinking about I-Love-You lists today. People need to be appreciated while they’re here. In fact, you can use the comments section for that if you’d like. Just put it into the universe how much you love your grandma’s hand lotion or your nephew’s laugh. That would be the perfect thing to get life moving again.
Seren, it is Friday the 13th! You should write that happy children’s book and cheer yourself up! : )
Of course, one of the things we love about you is your ability to truly embrace the depths of the emotions that you feel. You would be GREAT in AA. “Today I feel . . .”
Love ya!
And, you MUST put Mitas and Minnie in a book. And Roberta, too, with her charming little house and heart of gold. Then they will never be forgotten and so many others will be able to keep their memories alive as well.
Praying for you…
I’m praying for you too. And believing that Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Felic, I would be a natural at that. I mean, those are the first words in my sentences to STRANGERS. And I was thinking of that book today! I can’t wait to write that book. You people are all so dear (as my wonderful grandmother says). Thank you for the prayers.
I saw my name in print! well thats a happy place for me. And one I definitely needed this week as well. A lot of sighing going on with me these last few days. All I can say are the words I believe all of your readers would say to their friends or loved ones that go through a loss. “I’m praying for you”.
And I am. For my friend, for you, and for everyone’s perspective that comes to a screeching halt when this happens.
Oh. And I LOVE this blog.
Dear Universe,
I would like to send this little message out today: I think Serenity is one of the most precious women I know. I love how deeply she thinks and feels about people, her family, friends, and all of life’s big and little moments! And I’m especially grateful that she’s here, living life and causing us to consider and appreciate life and it’s meaning!
I love you, Seren and I too, am praying for you!
This past summer was full of dying over here too, but the sadness doesn’t last forever. I’m praying for you, lovely Serenity!
I would try to write something eloquent, but I can’t do it through the tears. I’m sitting in my hotel at the K.C. writer’s conference. To get to and from the conference site, I drive past Menorah Medical Center. Each time, I blow kisses toward the building and thank God for the skill of Dr. Rosenthal and for the prayers of the saints and for miracles. I thank Him for you and for Jake and for life in general.
Add all that to celebrating Claire’s birthday this week, and I’m a pretty big pile of mush :)
Love,
Mom
“I thank my God upon every remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine making request FOR YOU ALL WITH JOY, for your fellowship in the gospe from the first day until now, being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the dayof Jesus Christ; just as it is right for me to think this of you all, because I HAVE YOU IN MY HEART…………”
I thank you for reminding me of this verse which makes me think of the entire Nickerson family and what they mean to we Cerretti’s
Thank you Serenity
Serenity, I’m sorry for your loses.
im still here hanging with you – sending you positive thoughts. Sorry for all your loss :(
I’ve had a lot of bad news this week, too. Not death, but divorces and cancer diagnoses and bad things happening to good friends. So I’m hanging in there with you, Serenity. And praying.
I love your writing – please don’t stay gone too long.
wow. tough week or so, girlfriend. i think part of what’s so hard is that each loss deserves its own time of honoring, its own process. someone who’s been so important in our lives leaves a big hole. the fact that the hole is there is a testament to the degree of their impact and significance, and each one deserves their own space to be remembered, to be honored, to be mourned. the depth of our sense of loss speaks to how much they meant to us, how much they contributed to the world while they were here. but it also makes it hard for us. take the time you need to work through that, to be sad, to be grateful, to remember.
my prayers are with you!