Recently, my 8-year-old told me he likes Mondays (and Wednesdays and Fridays, and he had a reason for it – something about how much faster they go because of the schedule those days, but my point is that first part. He likes Mondays.) Being the original-thinking grown-up that I am, the thought rushed to my head, “Yeah, you’re gonna grow out of that one.” But I didn’t say it. I barely escaped it – that almost unquenchable need to pass on terrible, redundant, cynical adultisms onto the clean, every-moment-is-a-discovery slate of my children’s psyche. Here are some more things I don’t ever want them to assume, but which deep down I either kind of sort of believe or I find myself tempted to spew as if I believe . . .
Times goes fast. They grow so quickly, the seasons are shorter than they used to be, you blink and it’s gone. They’re all kind of true – I even say them, but it’s really a subtle way of admitting perhaps I took it all for granted, and I don’t really want to do that.
Here’s one: I hope they don’t take as long as me to try varied foods. I eat foods now that I don’t even like all that much, but I appreciate the variety. And I wish I’d gotten to that point sooner.
Being the grownup at Christmas is not as fun as being the child. Not true. It may be harder to believe the magic, but we appreciate it more once it’s found.
Jobs are things we endure but don’t really enjoy. It’s our own fault if we aren’t in a job we love or at least like or at least have found in it a reason for which to be grateful.
Activity is basically that necessary evil called “exercise” and we do it because we have gotten too fat. At this point, my children love going to the Y. It’s a total game to them. They envy Michael and I because they aren’t old enough to use the treadmills whereas if we would just shoot baskets with them more often and run around the living room when the mail comes or every time that really cool commercial comes on, then maybe we wouldn’t need the treadmill.
Bigfoot, the Loch Ness monster, and anything else that is cool and mysterious is always only a hoax. Hey, you never know.
Celebrities really are prettier people, it’s not digital trickery. Growing up in the technical age, it won’t take them as many behind-the-scenes featurettes to stop believing this as it has taken me, right? Who am I kidding? I haven’t gotten it YET.
And finally, a few more things I will never say to them and I hope they never believe: You probably won’t really be a professional football player when you grow up, it’s not really that amazing that you can spell “ostrich”, and it’s not that socially acceptable to watch Nemo in a laundry basket.
If only I could keep all the bad away. .. .